you don't choose
On ne choisit pas ses parents.
You can't choose your parents.
On ne choisit pas de qui on tombe amoureux.
You don't choose who you fall in love with.
Dans la tempête, on ne choisit pas son port.
In a storm, you don't choose your port.
On ne choisit pas le jour de sa naissance.
We do not choose the day we are born.
— Manon des sources (1986)